We have all been there friend. Let me make to you warm tea, warm your snuggie wittle blankie in the dryer and sing you a song. Afterwards, I’ll make dresses out of curtains for you and your seven siblings and take you for a ride in my rowboat! *clutches hands and spins*

being happy, being an optimist or being in a better mood then Debbie Downer shouldn’t be mistake with being delusional to reality. We ALL know life is not a candy land of sunshine and rainbows. We came into this world crying! Happiness IS however, making an effort and a CHOICE to reframe a situation.

Take work for example. You didn’t get the promotion you were hoping for and are feeling really sorry for yourself and understandably so. To re-frame it, you could call a meeting with your boss (once you are feeling stronger) and state your case as to what accomplishments you have made in the position and ask her what you can do to improve. Then, you can get the information you need to do a better job, move up, get more money and getter shoes! Boo-yaaa! Or create a voodo doll in her likeness and drive over it. Door #1 is taking action. Door #2 lets emotions run the show.

The space between standing up to your boss and feeling sorry for yourself is as large as you allow it to be. Below are 61 great tips to tighten the gap.

1. Talk to someone you love. <–and who unconditionally loves you! Grandparents are great!  2. Watch a kid play. Watch how he lives in the present, enjoying every moment.3. Watch a movie.

4. Read a book.

5. Read an inspirational story.

6. Watch a TED video that inspires. <– i do this all the time!

7. Watch a Youtube video that inspires.

8. Recall great moments from past.

9. Think about the things you are good at. <–there are TONS!

10. Strike up a conversation on Twitter.

11. Connect with someone on Facebook.

12. Join a LinkedIn Group.

13. Browse through Flickr photos that inspire.

14. Check out Boston.com’s Big Picture.

15. Listen to music.

16. Attend a music concert.

17. Get back to that sport you stopped playing. <–or the dancing, the painting, the ________. DO IT!

18. Read an autobiography.

19. Read about the life of your favorite sportstar.

20. Read about successes and failures.

21. Read about underdogs who overcame.

22. Find a date.

23. Get married and start a family. <–slow down a sec. write your (to be) husband / kids a letter of thanks!

24. Draw something.

25. Read about something you’ve never read.

26. Visit a place you’ve never visited.

27. Learn a language you thought you could never learn.

28. Get some inspirational wallpapers for your computer.

29. Read some inspirational quotes.

30. Take a walk. <–every 3 hours get up and be outside for 7 minutes. “sunshine break” vs smoke-break.

31. Go on a long hike with a group of people.

32. Call up your old friends and relatives.

33. Sing out loudly.

34. Join a dance club.

35. Use StumbleUpon.

36. Go out with your camera and click some pictures.

37. Scour through the archives of your favorite websites.

38. Write anything. Don’t think, just write as the thoughts come.

39. Meditate in solitude.

40. Spend some time with nature.

41. Break your routine. Do something unexpected.

42. Read poetry.

43. Watch a play.

44. Explore religion.

45. Exercise. Do yoga.

46. Scour through Delicious.

47. Watch the sunrise and sunset.

48. Volunteer for a noble cause.

49. Help someone with a task.

50. Teach and share knowledge.

51. Create a blog on Blogger or WordPress.

52. Get started with Tumblr or Posterous.

53. Play with your pet.

54. Cook something amazing. <–try dessert! invite friends over or bundle up & eat it all!

55. Celebrate a festival you’ve never celebrated.

56. Camp in the woods for a few days. <– you don’t need much and sites are about $15.

57. Form a new habit.

58. Quit something you’ve always been trying to quit.

59. Take part in a marathon. <– $ for charity + meet people + get in shape = WIN